First a brief definition: an online
dating profile is the photo personals ad that singles see
when they search the personals. It is your advert to the world.
You can post online a free dating profile by going here:
Free
Dating Profile
When writing an online dating profile an important approach
is to be able to see your work from another person's point
of view. Why? Because then you will be able to see what kind
of effect your profile might have upon other members of the
dating service.
This is a useful tip to keep in mind. So how do you use
it? You know how it is when you look through the profiles:
various photos, dating profile headlines and introductory
comments catch your eye, both for good and bad reasons. You
can see at once which personal profiles attract you and which
repel you. This has a lot to do with the accompanying photograph,
it's true, but what the individual people say about themselves
counts almost as much once you have got past looking at their
photo.
Check out some sample personal profiles
here:
Photo
Personals
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If you can develop the mental approach of seeing your own
profile in the same way, as if you were someone else, then
you will have taken a big step towards seeing how effective
your profile may be online. This will give you a chance to
rewrite and edit your profile accordingly, until you get it
right.
Not only can the ability to see yourself as others see you
be tremendously useful when writing your online dating profile,
but it has a use in other areas of the personals too, as well
as in life in general.
For example, when it comes to contacting other singles who
you have selected from the online profiles, or who have selected
you, it can make a big difference to what you say to them
if you can see your own words from a different viewpoint.
Then you may avoid rambling on pointlessly, or coming across
as selfish, or seeming too intrusive, to name but three possibilities.
But, how to develop this ability to see things from another's
point of view? It's really just a matter of practice. When
looking at something you have written yourself, ask yourself
how would this 'make me feel if I had not written it' and
had just come across it? Does the author of the piece of writing
seem self-absorbed or genuinely interested in communicating
with other people?
It does take practice, but it is well worth persisting with,
because if you can develop this approach it will place you
in good stead when actually dating other singles, and indeed,
in pursuing a relationship. In time, it will become second
nature to you to look at things from another's point of view,
and so to help you in becoming a more considerate and caring
person -- something we should all be aiming for. From little
acorn's great oaks really can grow, and so from adopting this
simple approach to relationships your whole life can ultimately
be changed.
Taking time and making an effort with details such as these
can make all the difference to your experience and success
in using the online photo personals. Now look for examples
of how to get photos right (and wrong!) above right.
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