It's a fact
that most people - shy or otherwise - - are much more concerned
about themselves than they are about the people they meet. They
may not be as shy as you, but you can be almost certain that they
are still undergoing an internal monologue focussed on themselves
when they meet you.
fact - that you are not the centre of other people's attention,
but they are focussing mainly on themselves - can help you to overcome
your shyness. The simple fact is that most people are just not that
interested in other people so much as interested in themselves.
Focus on this idea by focussing on the other person. Think about
how the person is feeling, ask non-invasive questions and direct
the attention taking place in the conversation onto the other person
and this will help if you are a shy woman or shy man.
The other piece
of advice I have to give you, the shy girl or shy guy, is that you
might feel less intimidated by looking for people to meet at a pen
pals style meeting site, rather than a strightforward dating site.
The pen pals approach is less in your face - you might be there
just to make friends, for example. So there's less pressure. One
of the best pen pals sites I've come across (because it protects
your personal details and gives you more control than most) is PenPalsPlanet.com.
It's free to join, and you don't have to use the site beyond
what you feel comfortable doing. Why not take it a step at a time?
Go and look at the site first. Then carry out some free searches
for other shy people (or perhaps look for people who obviously aren't
shy - another approach) then only contact people or take part when
you feel ready. Give it a try - it could change your life.
to Find Single Men or Single Women (Shy or Otherwise) Online - Resources:
and Girls - Secrets of Shy Dating
You don't have to be shy to need to know what attracts girls, but
knowing these things could help your shyness too.
People (Women Singles) - Photo Profiles: 18 to 32
Women and girls FriendFinder profiles aged 18 to 32. Friendfinder
personals may be the right way for you to begin finding the right
a Shy Mature Lady
Find a shy lady over 40.
women want in a man
Useful article here setting out what women want from a man. We say
this could be great information for shy guys because knowing what
women want in a man could help you be the man women want.
over 40 online dating
If you are looking for shy single women over 40 online, then this
could be the place to visit.
Mature Women Dating Men (As well as non-shy)
Where to meet mature women who want to get to know mature men for
Single People Online
Here you can
find shy men as well as shy women online, as well as those who don't
suffer from shyness. One way to overcome your own shyness may be
to date someone who isn't shy themselves.
a Single Woman or Shy Man over 30
If you are looking for shy women or non-shy women in their 30s then
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of this 'meet shy people for dating' page is to make it easier for
shy men seeking women to find suitable, compatible partners for
dating, friendship or even marriage. PenPalsPlanet, the site you
search using the panel above, makes this a fun process for shy people.
The singles site is virtually an online community - a sort of shy
club (though not just for shy people!) that provides powerful services
that let you narrow your search effectively and so find women or
men who really interest you and meet your criteria.
is free to join, and as a free member you can browse the database
of online single women and men view a limited number of profiles
each day, as well as use the other excellent features.