Is this you? You have joined one of the Internet personals
sites for a few weeks and you are not getting enough people
contacting you. (Or you are new to Internet personals sites
and need advice on writing your profile).
Taking a step back, the very first thing you should consider
is whether you have joined the right Internet personals site,
if you are getting few responses to your profile. If you are
using a totally free personals site, you should consider changing
or upgrading to a paid one. Mostly the totally free sites
are about worth what you have paid for them!
This is for a variety of reasons - the totally free Internet
personals sites may not be able to afford to employ staff
to run a decent service - even to vet potential members, for
example. Totally free personals may not be able to afford
to properly maintain and update the software that makes the
dating site run. After all, nothing worth having is really
free, is it?
It is also possible that you have joined a service with too
few members to make an impact. Here at SingleDating.com we
Internet Personals as PenPalsPlanet has a large
database of members and does not use automatic rebilling as
some sites do. With a large database of members your frequency
of being contacted must improve. Most things on the Internet
are a numbers game, after all. And with no automatic rebilling
you remain in control of your membership. PenPalsPlanet is
free to join initially and to try out, though to get full
use of the system you must pay a subscription.
However, once you have joined a decent service you should
still do what you can to improve your rate of being contacted.
First consider your profile. Perhaps it is your personals
profile that is letting you down.
If you already have one you should carefully consider whether
to re-write it. In fact a good approach is to spend some time
and write several versions of your personals profile text
until you have two or three that you are happy with. Then
you can try out these different versions in turn on the Internet
to see which produces the best response.
It is also important to do some basic research. The best
way to do this is to go to the Internet personals and do some
searches of the PenPalsPlanet
Internet Personals database. Then read through
some of the profiles there. You can access the PenPalsPlanet
profiles directly through the search panel top right of this
When you find a personals profile that catches your eye
ask yourself why it had that effect. Did it catch your eye
for the right reasons? Do the personals profiles you have
picked out show people who make you want to contact them,
or at least consider contacting them?
Take a look through some of the
internet personals to find examples by using the search panel
above right on this page.
Obviously the header in the Internet personals profile is
paramount here. What kind of headers are you drawn to? Once
you have noted a few that were effective in catching your
attention you could take some of the approaches used to build
your own much more effective personal profile header. Don't
copy other people's work, but instead use it for inspiration
and to learn from.
Next look at the detail of what you have said in your own
Internet personal profile. Try to look at it from someone
else's point of view. Would it put you off or at least seem
bland and uninteresting if this was someone else's personal
profile? Again read through lots of examples and try to find
an approach that suits you and works for you.
Finally the photograph you use is of very great importance
- so much so that I have devoted an entire article just to
using photos in Internet personals. Online
Photo Personals Sites explains how to use your picture
effectively in the Internet photo personals.
If you are willing to put in time to get the details right
then your Internet personals experience will be a vastly better
one than otherwise. And let's face it, meeting someone online
would be a great thing wouldn't it? So it is well worth spending
the time to get every aspect of your Internet personals membership
Now look for examples of how to get personals profiles right
(and wrong!) through the search panel above right on this