Chemistry Or Biology
Just how far are we in control of our feelings when it comes to
By Stephanie Constantina and exclusive to SingleDating.com
heard it said that there is 'chemistry' between a couple who
are in love, or at least strongly attracted to each other.
Some have taken this literally, but the term is actually being
really originates in the 20th century concept of the 'mad
scientist' who mixes chemicals in test tubes and produces
an explosive and even reason-defying reaction. In the early
twentieth century in particular the new materials being made
by 'mad scientists' such as the previously unknown types of
plastic, must have seemed akin to magic to much of the general
chemical reaction regarded by fear and awe in the 20th century
was of course the atomic bomb. The expression 'blond bombshell'
no doubt alludes to this and fits in with the idea of a chemical
reaction taking place to produce something mind-numbing, magical
and incredible -- in this case a blonde female with such 'devastating'
looks (note the word 'devastating' here in connection with
the effect of bombs.
the ultimate 'mad scientist' (the stereotype comes complete
with white lab coat and German accent)? In my opinion Einstein
should be at the top of the list.
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So, who was
the ultimate blond bombshell of the mid-20th century? Again in my
opinion, Marilyn Monroe would come first. No coincidence then that
these two are often associated with each other as icons of the 20th
century. The idea goes back beyond the 20th century too, the idea
of two chemicals mixed together producing something like magic,
something against religion, being first explored in 'The Strange
Case of Dr Jeykll and Mr Hyde' by Robert Louis Stevenson (Strange
Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde).
So, if strong
attraction is described as 'chemistry' but in a metaphorical rather
than literal way, then what is actually going on -- literally speaking
-- between two strongly attracted people? It is of course biology!
We are not talking about raw chemicals mixed together in a test
tube but highly complex organic compounds that are released like
hormones by glands in the brain to create a state or feeling of
happiness and excitement.
am not as interested in the science behind these hormonal changes
when people are strongly attracted to each other, but there are
many who are and who spend their time researching the matter. Dr
James Pfaus of Concordia
University in Montreal, Canada, reports "No matter how sophisticated
we think the expression of desire is, human behaviour is not so
free from the action of hormones." (You can read more about his
findings here: Hormones:
Learning the Rules of Attraction.
What does clearly
come out of this for me is that when it comes to attraction and
love we are not rationally or consciously in control but subject
to our biological nature, just like any other
species. Of course our rational thoughts and ideas can come
into play, if it is inconvenient at that time in someone's life
to have these feelings (if they are for someone outside a marriage,
for example), but whether our reason is strong enough to rule our
biology is debatable and probably depends on the individual circumstances
concerned as much as particular individuals' 'strength of character',
however that might be defined (perhaps as 'moral sense').
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This is a big
subject area and for further reading I have listed the resources
Role for Oxytocin, the 'Hormone of Love'
Identification of the structure of an important area of the brain
from which 'biochemical commands' are passed to the body via the
Converge For Couples in Love
Curiously, it appears that the hormones inside men's bodies when
they fall in love become closer to those of women and vice versa.
Science of Love and Attraction
The details of which hormones are involved in attraction, in a nice
short summary, for those interested.
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